I stumbled across this on this very grey morning and found the
words oddly powerful and so true for so
many people who will read this.... that said .. READ IT... marinate on it and
think about if this applies to you or to people/friends you have or know ...There
is no right or wrong here, just a
statement and a sentiment!
Wise words from Anthony Hopkins:
′′Let go the people who are not prepared to
love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it
will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with
people who don't want change.
Stop showing up for people who have no
interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the
appreciation of those around you, but it's a boost that steals your time,
energy, mental and physical health.
When you begin to fight for a life with joy,
interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this
place. This doesn't mean you need to change what you are, it means you should
let go of the people who aren't ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or
ignored by the people you give your time to, you don't do yourself a favor by
continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not
for everyone and not everyone is for you.
That's what makes it so special when you meet
people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.
The more time you spend trying to make
yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving
yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet
and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.
The more you stay involved with people who use
you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the
longer you stay away from the community you want.
Maybe if you stop showing up, you won't be
wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop
texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship;
it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to
keep it. This is not love, it's attachment. It's wanting to give a chance to
those who don't deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should
not be in your life.
The most valuable thing you have in your life
is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and
energy, it will define your existence.
When you realize this, you begin to understand
why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places
or situations that don't suit you and shouldn't be around you, your energy is
stolen.
You will begin to realize that the most
important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to
protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe
haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. You
are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your work to exist
for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled,
you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return
the favours you have granted. It's your only obligation to realize that you are
the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship,
commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then
wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don't waste time with people
who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and
the protection you deserve.